The foundation of sexual awareness. If you are not attracted to the opposite sex/ then the chemicals involved have no purpose or meaning, and the experience will be abandoned. Therefore attraction is vital, to species survival. The common question is: how can I make the one I am attracted too/ be attracted to me? Unfortunately 75% of the population in both genders, are attracted to 15% of the people/ while an additional 10% are generally considered unattractive. The end result of that is a competition, depression, demand (stop looking at me), and a variety of definitions that make life both interesting, for some, and unhappy for others.
The constant of physical attraction for most is, “a trophy: YOU want this, and I possess this”. I win/ you lose. When this stops, so does the attraction unless you have found a way to respect each other, rather than use each other as a prize.
The critical reality of physical and health “beauty: freedom of life, has granted you an expression beyond most”. Is a reality that can be experienced within the next generation; therefrom it is important, and valued by all. Regardless of personal value, as in “we are friends”.
The critical relationship of male and female is respect; because without respect, you have no relationship at all. It is merely use or abuse, with a side of lust.
Here then we enter the environmental truth, that decides what your relationship shall be, and ultimately who gets to stay in a relationship of value, for life. Respect is the single demonstrated expression: I value you, because life has found you to be, an experience beyond yourself. Or more simply, the essence of respect is, “you have proven yourself to be an asset, rather than a hindrance; to life on earth”. Respect is then only earned by those whose decision is devoted to not only life, but a truth that gives quality to all life. That limits the available people for an honest and trustworthy relationship, to less than the majority. Nonetheless, these are the people of love/ and without love, there is no relationship either.
Those whose decisions are less than love, want companionship, and seek to buy, sell, trade, or steal whatever they want through manipulation, control, ridicule, abuse, rape, or temptation.
Physical Attraction is: to a man, “she is clearly woman, without the slightest doubt, or even a need to consider the question from all sides”. To a woman, “I suspect the same is true, by simply exchanging woman for man”. Isolating specific parts, simply “narrows the population”, to a more targeted approach.
Mental attraction is: to a man, “she completes my world, and my body. She can walk with me, through the edges and realities of my life”. To a woman, “I suspect, that the values of security, the realities of, my own independent choice”. The composition of an environment completed by love, but shared with a purpose not unlike my own, are all necessary elements; particularly if a child is born.
The spiritual attraction of lovers, lifts each other into the heights of heart/ then soul. That experience is earned by the honesty of a reality expressed beyond self/ because of, I trust you.
The physical attraction of sex, is the use of chemicals to bind my life to yours; while we discuss what the future could be. That is often a failed reality, that may or may not work for any length of time. Because sex all by itself, is never enough; to ask for a lifetime, and a commitment with you. Because sex, interferes with growing a relationship. With understanding the limits or values, of what the future can be. There must be more. When there is honestly more inside your heart, as the discovery of respect in each. Then sexual passions can and do ignite the values which appreciate into “lovers”/ not less.
The question is: HOW do I make the one I WANT, worship and support me, with their want?
The answer is: turn away from want, so that your own truth can arise, and prove the person you have chosen to be. After you have done that, the soul (I own love inside) you desire to love you will do so. But that is no guarantee, he or she will grant you a lifetime. There are many factors involved, love is just one. Even if it is the most important aspect of a personal destiny; LIFE can have different plans.
The question is: HOW do I prove “my love” is everything you need in your life: CHOOSE me?
The answer is: turn away from your pride, and dismantle your need for a trophy, thereby becoming true to yourself. Every love must be individually identified/ NOT assumed or created by fantasies, need, or want. This is a lifetime you request/ it is not a game, and no temptations are allowed. True love never wants a slave, love only desires love! Trust limits everything about every relationship, therefore prove respect. Trust binds us together, as nothing else can do. But it must be earned, through time.
The question is: HOW do I use sex to my advantage/ to make you want me?
The answer is: turn away from your selfishness, so that love can honestly bloom in the direction of your life. Because only truth, through honest acceptance, can create a lover.
The question is: HOW do I change the reality of our relationship, into something more?
The answer is: when faced with a turning point, as is common to all relationships, the reality is; each must choose for themselves. You cannot force “their choice, to make you happy”/ each one, must find that within themselves. Consequently if someone is drifting away, then you must let them go; reminding them only of what they are leaving behind. That act forces a decision, and if your relationship is true, they will return to you with more intensity than before. If you allow it!
The question is: HOW do I make someone want me MORE?
The answer is: you cannot, only they can desire you more; it is their choice not yours.
The question is: HOW can I keep the one I have/ I WANT him or her? I need this person in my life; they are VERY important to me; its not a game.
The answer is: life forces us in three primary directions. Primary to all considerations of purpose is survival in time/ as this is functionally necessary to every other pursuit or desire for our world. Second is love, the essence of all happiness displayed and credited with the choice we make “to survive/ and be found ALIVE”. Third is the critical steps we take to identify ourselves for an eternity; a reality that exists without exception. Within these three scenarios, are the decisions that make up our existence in time/ and control or change our fate, or destiny as a reality of choices made. These three control the steps we take. When love works for our lives/ not just yours; it is “inhaled, as the breathe we need as one”. When survival is not simple or plain or easy, this comes first; love demands it/ not a game. When we exist in the freedoms to express and experience the choices we make to create an identity; regardless of the path. That path must be respected and allowed, because eternity is no game. When “I must understand”/ then you must understand as well. When I must pay this price, then you must accept the reality of my choice; just as I must accept the life you choose to identify yourself as well. Children make these choices harder, but they also provide the heartbeats, which become an identity clearly chosen in love; IF that is you.
The question is: HOW do I meet someone, so that I can at least have a chance for true love?
The answer is: learn better how to participate. While it is true, that all people want those who are like them, to be with them. It is not true, that this child’s method of play, will gain you a lasting relationship. Instead, it is fair to say; those who are described as “happy/ rather than sad”; or upbeat/ rather than depressed; or understanding/ rather than judgmental; or willing to share or care/ rather than take or manipulate; will be chosen first.
The question is: I am not pretty or handsome; HOW can I compete?
The answer is: “everyone, is someone”. Be yourself/ because nothing less will find a foundation to build a relationship on. Remember the simple truth: “we live in a beautiful world, as nature designed and built”. Appreciate it while you can/ because everything is being destroyed. Like it or not, that is true; because university disrespect is horrendous. They live in their fantasy world, constantly stealing life from the entire population of this earth, to play their games. While they threaten, poison, mutilate, disease, and literally intend to ignite the planet itself on fire. Be at peace, because if you belong to GOD Then mercy will be found for you. Consequently as with any death/ it matters not, how. It does however matter, if you just let this entire Creation, and all the life which would follow us die: “Without, lifting a finger in its defense”. Shame on you, if you don’t care, about our world!